cinta itu buta, dan juga boleh membutakan,
melukakan dan sukar untuk kita lupakan...
now,that's a line from dua dunia by too phat feat siti...
yesterday a friend of mine asked about how to juggle people around instead of breaking up or letting the "precious someone" go..so, but before i give any opinion,lets identify which category of juggler you people want to be :
basically,there's three type of juggler (according to my observation n experience)
Juggler 1 a.k.a miss/mr i can't be alone
this type usually a person who can't stand himself/herself being alone..always want accompany a.k.a bf/gf..now they usually take whatever they have in front of them.ie, someone who shows interest or even ex(s)..the part of juggling begins when they tend to take everything in front of them without choosing and later on do not know how to "buang"..
juggler 2 a.k.a ms/mr i'm keeping my option open
this usually happens when a third party comes into a relationship..even though it is not wrong and not impossible for a person to fall with two person at the same time, but it suck when u are included in this love triangle..the person who loved both would have a tough time choosing between the two which have their own qualities..later stage of this lovey triangle would be lots of emotional pain and stress
juggler 3 a.k.a ms/mr im a player
this type,guess everyone knows..a person who cheat,lie just to get in lots of other people pants and skirts and also blouses and etc...this type usually have sky rocket confidence,charming and also skills..its hard to identify this type lately because they too have evolve into much more complex character that sometimes you would misjudge a person who have a high level of confidence as player..just beware,and also don't let your guard down,not even a sec when you feel something isn't right..
so, in which category are you?
basically, if u want to be a juggler, u'll need to have three criteria ;-
1-brain,
2-confidence
3-skills
4-looks
5-money
*note that the no4 and no5 are plus point but not necessary
in order to have a brain, u'll need a lot of reading..current issues,mags and also travel brochures..
u'll never know what u might encounter..for instance, u never been to Bali but u have read something about Bali,u can use this as a subject of conversation..also imagine u trying to hit a kelantanese chick but u never been to kelantan,u can used the information from the travel brochures to talk or something..atleast u are not like those dumbjock who sit in front of a nice girl and goes um erm mmm nthen smile like kerang busuk...
what about confindence?..a key factor between a player and a playar..how to build up your confidence?...i dont know..u need to find out yourself because different people have different ways to boost their confidence..for instance,i joined the debate club when i was a freshman and it helped me a lot ;p (to raise my confidence not to become a juggler)...
the last key would be the skills..a true player would have its own skills and trademark..it would developed naturally along the way and along the game..most of it through pain and humiliation during trial and error period..once they get the vibe and rythm of the game,they are on their way to win the game..
another two plus point i do not need to elaborate..u guys should know..
so in my humble opinion,no one needs to be hurt or to feel hurt..jgn la bermain dgn perasaan orang lain..because what goes around,comes around..nnt biler dah terkena btg hidung baru nak nyesal..x de maknenye makcik!!! hehe...
post ni ditujukan kepada emellia yang cube merebut suami org..a.k.a sir ;p
*disclaimer - I'm neither a juggler nor a player..I'm just a plain advisor
to juggle or to love?
How to survive a break up~
Lately,many of my friends came and ask fer my advice on relationship and etc2..
some of them even called me doctor love or cupid but i'm not..even i screwed up sometimes in my relationship,but it doesn't stopped me from helping others..
so,for those who are in need of advice on how to survive a break up,here are the famous 5 tips i would gave which i got it from Rich Santos - a columnist in marie claire
1. Ride Off Into The Sunset
Riding off into the sunset keeps our dignity. When a girl breaks up with me, I will say:
"OK, it was great getting to know you over the past (insert length of time).You take care."
My business is done.
Then, I will figuratively ride off into the sunset. I won't tell her how much I miss her. I won't tell her she made a mistake. I won't call, email or text. I won't mention her to mutual friends. I'll be gone from her life.
Suddenly, it will dawn on the girl that she is not getting her money's worth for this breakup. It is true: people who do the breaking up have an air of power to them. They like being the decision maker, and having the control. But after I walk away like it's no problem, she'll start to think:
"Wow, why isn't he shaken up over this? Did he even care that I broke up with him?"
Or even better, the ever-popular and coveted:
"Did I do the right thing breaking up with him?"
That's when you know you're in business.
2. Apply the Wizard of Oz Effect
Of course, most likely, we are in total pain and anguish after a break up. But, we can't let that show. Remember:
"Pay no mind to that man behind the curtain?"
We can, behind the curtain, cry, complain, yell, be angry, and hurt. But, we must craft the appearance on the outside of being fine with everything. We need to look happy on the outside to the other person 100% of the time we see them post-breakup.
This also gives the illusion that you might be seeing someone else, or that you've got other things going on. Of course you're miserable and there's NOTHING going on in your life, but they don't have to know it!
Make It Quick?
3. Enact the Verb in "Breaking Up"
Get rid of all evidence of them -- put it all in a closet, under your bed, or anywhere. I'm a sucker for a strand of hair or her shampoo smell left on a pillow after a girl is over. After the breakup, this must go: wash the sheets! Remember, in breaking up, to think of it like a guillotine: make it fast.
On a guillotine, you'd rather have a sharp blade slice your head right off than a blunt blade repeatedly cut and cut until your head finally fell off.
If it's a break up they want, make it clean for them. It will look good, and it will be easier on you. Flush them right out of your life immediately, and completely.
4. Don't Look Back
It's hard to accomplish this. We know not to look back, just like we know not to look down when someone says don't look down...but we still look down. But, make it easy on yourself: looking back and saying stuff like:
"Gosh, just two weeks ago,we were out to dinner and she stayed over here and we were so close..."
...will just make it more painful. You can't look back until it's time to look back when you're truly over it.
5. Remember You'll Get Over It
The best thing about breaking up is those following mornings you wake up after you've truly gotten over someone. You're renewed, alive, and ready to see what the world has to offer. Keep pushing through for this feeling, remember all those people you thought you'd never get over (you know you ended up getting over them), and as Jim Morrison once crooned: "break on through to the other side!"
Well I don't know about you, but after going through all that, I'm inspired to get dumped!
who cut down the cherry tree?
> Legend has it that George Washington, America's first president,
> chopped down a cherry tree in his youth. His father saw the damaged
> tree and asked his son if he knew who did it. George was quoted
> bravely admitting the truth:
> 'I can't tell a lie, Pa; you know I can't tell a lie. I cut it with my axe.'
Below is a satire of how some Malaysian politicians circa 2008 may have reacted to the same question:
> Abdullah Ahmad Badawi - 'I did not chop down that cherry tree; I was just taking a nap under it.'
> Najib Razak - 'I swear that I have never MET that tree.'
> Hishamuddin Hussein Onn - '...but I only own a keris ,not an axe; so how to chop down that cherry tree?'
> Dr Mahathir Mohamd - 'Apa nama cherry tree, yes, I chopped it down because, I don't like the idea of Pak Lah sleeping under it.'
> VK Lingam - 'It could be me, it may be me but I don't think it's me.'
> Anwar Ibrahim - 'I did NOT do it, and I am not giving any DNA sample for you to plant on the axe handle.'
> Mohd Khir Toyo - 'The new state government should just trim the grass and not waste time asking who cut the tree.'
> Ahmad Said (Terengganu MB) - 'I chopped it down because cherry trees are more expensive to maintain than durian trees.'
> Azalina Othman - 'Cherry tree is not included in my tourism MOU so I chopped it down. Besides, there are so many unauthorised signboards being put up by Ah Long around that damn tree.'
> Shabery Cheek - 'Not me. I challenge you to an open debate on tree cutting.'
> S Samy Velu - 'I chopped it down because Hindraf members were using it as a meeting point.
> Wira Ali Rustam - 'We have planted durian trees for 50 years and we will plant them for another 50 years. We do not need cheery trees, apple trees, pear trees and all these other foreign trees.'
> Rais Yatim - 'You must see the bigger picture, Ahmad Said said cherry trees are expensive to maintain; Ali Rustam said that's against our national identity and, I needed to test my new axe; so you see, it is a WIN-WIN situation all around.'
> Sharir Samad - 'I cut the tree because we could no longer afford to subsidise it.'
> Karpal Singh - 'The bigfoot creature did it.'
> Bung Mokhtar - 'The big monkey did it.'
> Pandikar Amin Mulia (Speaker) - 'There is nothing in the standing orders against chopping cherry trees. Kinabatangan duduk, Bukit Gelugor duduk.
> Khairy Jamaluddin - 'I did not do it, neither did the Mat Rempits. By the way, what's a cherry tree?'
> Lim Kit Siang - 'Cherry tree also you don't know; you are an insult to Oxford!'
> Nazri Abdul Aziz - 'Racist, racist, racist! When we cut down durian trees nobody made a fuss. Now....'
> Malaysian Citizens - 'Oh for heaven's sake! Somebody please plant something before we all starve to death!'
hOme sweet HoMe~
just arrived at duta around 5. 10 a.m tadi.....
now 8.32..guling2 kat bilik feveret.....best weh...
sape2 yang belum pulang..cepat2...rugi..uiTm x besh mane...hahaha...
anyway..selamat tidur semua..n hari ni dgn condifen i x puasa coz kene makan ubat ;p
*bilik feveret kuh*
Knape?
1-ada guitar
2-ada wifi
3-ada phone
4-ada dvd n tv
5-ade woofer
senang cakap,bilek ni ade semua..tu yg sy malash nak blaja ;P
And so it begins~
it started as a minor fever..so i pon malas la nak makan ubat..but the next day my whole body panas giler and my eyes bengkak..nthen afta two days of tersiksa, i pon pegi hospital..
and guess what?????
suspected denggi and i kene masuk wad kecemasan at 10.39 - (21/9/08)
so, mcm biasa..amik temperature i..i ignt bdn i x panas but biler doc cakap its 40.4 celcius..i pon senyap jap..nthen tnya..
alex: 40.4? biasakan?
doc: emm biasa la kalau nk dekat2 mati...
alex(dalam hati) : fcuk!
so, kene amik darah.....
here's the pic...
seram?hell yeah..
siap dedua tgn bai..
last2 terus drip n i padam..lalala
2.47 A.M
well, it 47 minutes pass two o'clock in the morning..having a bad day..mata bengkak,demam n all sorts of stuff running through my mind..yet,i'm happy..why?
1st- i got my friends who will always by my side..
2nd- i got "her" ;p
3rd- i'm playing call of duty4 pagi2 buta..
yeah i'm happy...hehe..
tp today tiada purnama..
kemana agaknya menghilang?
aku tidak punya jawapan...
perempuan & malaikat
Aku hanya sang pujangga,
Yang merawat hati yang lara.
Tapi kamu,
Bagai malaikat.
Yang turun dari langit,
Menyampaikan wahyu cinta,
Yang aku masih tidak mengerti,
Dari dahulu hingga kini.
Aku hanya sang pujangga,
Yang mahu menjadi pencinta.
Pencinta perempuan seperti kamu,
Wahai malaikat yang muncul dalam hidupku.
mungkin?
Kita
Tuhan ketemukan aku dengan mu,
Aku yang berbeda dengan mu
Agamaku dan agamamu,
Hidupku dan hidupmu,
Budayaku dan budayamu.
Tapi
Berbeda, tapi masih diketemukan,
Apakah hanya satu kebetulan?
Atau ianya sebuah permulaan?
Kamu
Redakanlah hatiku,
Padamkanlah dukaku.
Aku
Hanya seorang hamba,
Yang mengimpikan sebuah syurga.
Lalu
Ternukilnya tulisan cinta,
Yang datang atas nama cinta.
Puisi sebuah hati
Hati,
Unik dan mengasyikkan.
Kerna hati, aku melihatnya,
Kerna hati, aku tertarik kepadanya.
Dia,
Dalam kelembutan,
Ada kesedihan.
Dalam ketenangan,
Ada kedukaan.
Lalu,
Dengan senyumannya yg menawan,
Membuat hati ini tertawan.
Adakah ini cinta yg diminta?
Atau hanya ulangan luka?
Aku,
Sedikit demi sedikit,
Saat demi saat,
I’m falling for u – deep inside.
New
hey there,
well its been a while since i wrote something electronically..i used to write at xanga but lately
seems a bit hard to maintain..therefore i set up this new sites for a piece of my mind..hope u guys can accept a new comer like me ahaks!
yours truly,
alexhakim
