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March 17, 2011 @ 2.03 a.m.

happy birthday to Fanna, shaf and all.

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Anyway,

I'm awake, wide awake. i have trouble sleeping lately.

wait, i have many troubles lately. sleeping, waking up, eating and studying and all.

too many things to handle a single time. tho i always think that i'm good at multi-tasking, that form is temporary and class is permanent, but i guess im wrong. things are a bit messy these days. i can't handle much.

nuff said.

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Anyway,

I was browsing thru the internet and i found some website, telling how good their book on love and dating advice for women. they even said that it is so good and practical and if you didn't like it, money back guaranteed. here are some of the tips:

1. Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together. [how about long-distance r/ships?]

2. You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.[how to compromise without sacrificing your personal values?]

3. Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don't cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.[how?]

4. Encourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. Be aware that most men aren't mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time. [listen to what? drama?]

5. Make him appreciate you. Don't wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.[self-praising?]

6. Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship - giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.[how?]

7.Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-curlingly annoying habits. Learn to love him the way he is.[lame]

8. Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.[easier said than done]

9. Learn that punishing your partner won't work. It may make you feel better to give him a hard time, but it will actually make him dig his heels in more. A better tactic is to reward the things you like and ignore what you don't like.[compromising?]

Now, i read it twice. no, thrice and for god sake, i think the author is a cheater who earns a lot of money by selling this crap advice. the wording is a bit vague. but i guess that's the whole point. the more confusing people get by reading his/her advice, the more money [s]he can squeezed.

I've raised question for each point and i don't think the author have the answers either. tho people can be categorized in general, there can't be a general advice in love or relationship as the circumstances would vary between person. when in love, each and every person are unique in their own way [or maybe stupid]. and their heart - has reason, that reason itself does not understand.

anyhow, kudos to the author for advices. not that i don't agree, in fact most of the point are quite true in a sense that it takes two to tango, but i hate the fact that people made a lot of profit out of other people's misfortune. but hey, that's life. deal with it. truth hurts and life isn't easy as you think.

p/s: anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart =)